Incense Quotes: Find in the list! Difference in amount of money in relation to age and basic manners

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  • Parents (if you are not a mourner): ¥ 50,000 or ¥ 100,000
  • 10,000 yen or 30,000 yen for relatives
  • 5,000 yen is common except for relatives, up to 10,000 yen at most
  • Make the amount to be wrapped (number of pieces) be an odd number of 1, 3, 5 or 10
  • 30% of the people who decline the citation return
  1. Incense quote table (by gender and participant’s age)
  2. Incense memoirs to relatives
    1. Parents /spouse’s parents (parents /parents-in-law) (50,000 yen to 100,000 yen)
      1. Why don’t you give out your parents’ critique if you are a mourner?
    2. Brothers and sisters, spouse’s brothers and sisters (brothers and sisters in law) (30,000 yen to 100,000 yen)
      1. Spousal brothers and sisters (brothers and sisters in law)
    3. Grandparents /spouse’s grandparents (in-law grandparents) (10,000 yen to 50,000 yen)
    4. Uncle, aunt (5,000 yen-30,000 yen)
    5. Relatives other than the above (such as cousins) (5,000 yen to 30,000 yen)
  3. Incense to others except relatives
    1. Friends and their families (5,000 yen to 10,000 yen)
    2. Workplace relations (business partners and superiors /colleagues /subordinates of the same workplace) (5,000 yen to 10,000 yen)
    3. Neighborhood relation (neighbors) (3,000 yen to 10,000 yen)
    4. Onshi (teacher) (3,000 yen to 10,000 yen)
  4. Incense quote by region
  5. Courtesy of manners of incense to want to know
    1. Incense Price and Bill
      1. Incense amount (number) is an odd number
      2. No new bills will be inserted
    2. Inscription on the incense bag: Generally “OK in front of the Holy Spirit”
      1. The name is dim sum
      2. How to write an incense in the case of passing names by name
    3. Timing to pass the incense book
      1. 30% of the bereaved decline the incense book
    4. Procedure to decline the delicacy debit to smart
      1. In the case of ‘Same-day return’, where a casket return is passed on the day
        1. The difference between return on the day and the funeral thank-you goods
  6. Frequently Asked Questions on Incense
    1. Q1. Should I bring a relative’s funeral, an incense that is said to be unnecessary?
      1. A. Not required
    2. Q2. If you said that my grandmother’s funeral and incense would be fine for 10,000 yen?
      1. A. Incense is 10,000 yen and may send flowers with grandchildren
    3. Q3. Economically tough, but should you wrap the code?
      1. A. Wrap feelings (3000 yen) if possible
    4. Q4. How much should you wrap the funerals and relatives of your relatives?
      1. A. The same amount of incense as received, or 3000 yen to 5000 yen is safe
    5. Q5.
      1. A. Most likely not to change
    6. Q6. Is it rude to wrap a large amount of incense in addition to relatives?
      1. A. Even if it is not rude, it is recommended to wrap around the market price.

Incense quote table (by gender and participant’s age)

Relationship /Attendee’s Age 20’s 30’s 40’s 50’s 60s

Parents

30,000 yen to 100,000 yen 50,000 yen to 100,000 yen 50,000 yen to 100,000 yen 50,000 yen to 100,000 yen 50,000 yen to 100,000 yen

Brothers, sisters

30,000 yen to 50,000 yen 30,000 yen to 50,000 yen 30,000 yen to 50,000 yen 30,000 yen to 50,000 yen 50,000 yen to 100,000 yen

Grandparents

10,000 yen 10,000 yen-30,000 yen 30,000 yen to 50,000 yen 30,000 yen to 50,000 yen
Uncle, aunt 5,000 yen to 10,000 yen 10,000 yen-30,000 yen 10,000 yen-30,000 yen 10,000 yen-30,000 yen 10,000 yen-30,000 yen

Other relatives

5,000 yen to 10,000 yen 5,000 yen to 10,000 yen 10,000 yen-30,000 yen 10,000 yen-30,000 yen 10,000 yen-30,000 yen
Friends, their families 5,000 yen to 10,000 yen 5,000 yen to 10,000 yen 5,000 yen to 10,000 yen 5,000 yen to 10,000 yen 5,000 yen to 10,000 yen

Working relationship

5,000 yen to 10,000 yen 5,000 yen to 10,000 yen 5,000 yen to 10,000 yen 5,000 yen to 10,000 yen 5,000 yen to 10,000 yen

Neighborhood relationship

3000 yen to 10,000 yen 5,000 yen to 10,000 yen 5,000 yen to 10,000 yen 5,000 yen to 10,000 yen 5,000 yen to 10,000 yen

Onshi

3000 yen to 10,000 yen 3000 yen to 10,000 yen 3000 yen to 10,000 yen 3000 yen to 10,000 yen 3000 yen to 10,000 yen

Incense memoirs to relatives

Parents /spouse’s parents (parents /parents-in-law) (50,000 yen to 100,000 yen)

Aren’t the relatives’ enthusiasm wrapped up even by close parents and so on? I would not pay if I would be “the mourner (the person who does the funeral as a representative of the bereaved)” but of course if the brother is the mourner

In the sense of helping the funeral cost, 50,000 to 100,000 yen is quoted as a market price .

If you look at the general amount by age, the general amount is

  • 50,000 yen up to 40’s
  • 100,000 yen from the 50s

But if you are in your twenties or financial reasons, it may be from 30,000 yen.

If married, leave as a couple, and it is common for the spouse’s parents (parents-in-law) to wrap the same amount as their parents

According to a survey conducted in 2011, the average was about 110,000 yen in Hokkaido and about 130,000 yen in Tokyo. However, it has become about half each in 2016, and it is changing with the times even though it is the highest market price in the scroll.

Why don’t you give out your parents’ critique if you are a mourner?

  • If you are a mourner: don’t give incense
  • When brothers and sisters are mourners: Selling incense

Kongen is issued in units of “houses”, so if a “mourner” who carries out a funeral as a representative of a bereaved, it will be duplicated when it comes out of incense. If a brother or sister other than the mourner has already left the house and is independent, then the house is divided and the incense is released.

If a child who has already left the house becomes a mourner at the parent’s funeral, it is considered as the mourner of that “house” and so no rituals are issued.

Brothers and sisters, spouse’s brothers and sisters (brothers and sisters in law) (30,000 yen to 100,000 yen)

The price for brothers and sisters is ¥ 30,000 to ¥ 100,000 , which is the second highest price quote for parents.

There is a big difference in the amount of money, but it is as follows when it sees according to age.

  • 20’s to 50’s: 30,000 yen to 50,000 yen
  • 50,000 yen to 100,000 yen from the 60s

Some data show that the market price has been 100,000 yen from the 40s, but The overall average amount is less than 40,000 yen, generally 3 It is likely to be covered in a million yen . By age, it is 30,000 yen in the 40s, but it has risen to 50,000 yen from the 50s.

The average amount was about 97,000 yen in 2011 for people over 60, but it is about 43,000 yen or less and less than half in 2016, and it has decreased significantly with the times.

Furthermore, in Hokkaido, there are two answers with 2 million yen in the amount of money wrapped in a rooster in 2011, and there are considerable regional differences.

Spousal brothers and sisters (brothers and sisters in law)

Incense quotes for brothers and sisters in the same way as for real brothers and sisters,

  • 20’s to 50’s: 30,000 to 50,000 yen
  • 60s ~: 50,000 to 100,000 yen

It will be

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Because it is something that comes out on a “home” basis, and it’s not something that is done personally, but a couple together.

The spouse’s real brothers and sisters are treated the same as their brothers and sisters, and the amount does not change.

Grandparents /spouse’s grandparents (in-law grandparents) (10,000 yen to 50,000 yen)

The market price is 10,000 yen to 50,000 yen. Broad, but by age:

  • 10,000 in the 20s
  • 30s 10,000 yen-30,000 yen
  • 40s and over 30,000 yen to 50,000 yen

If your parents are paying their living expenses, you will not have to send them out to your parents, especially from your grandchildren.
However, if you are working, you may want to go out. Mostly, we will talk together with grandchildren and decide the same amount, or we will collect and wrap several thousand yen each as grandchildren.

Furthermore, it seems that some people think that it is better to wrap them as a couple rather than putting them together with grandchildren if you are married. As it changes with family circumstances, it is best to decide in discussion individually.

The amount of money to wrap wraps so much that relation is deep, such as having lived with grandparents.

Uncle, aunt (5,000 yen-30,000 yen)

The price ranges from 5,000 yen to 30,000 yen by age, as follows:

  • 20’s 5,000 to 10,000 yen
  • 30’s to 10,000 yen to 30,000 yen
  • 10,000 yen to 30,000 yen for over 40s

The average price is around 17000 yen, and it generally wraps around 10,000 yen in any age. However, the average amount by age is more than doubled to about 21,000 yen in the 50s and about 23,000 yen in the 60s.

Relatives other than the above (such as cousins) (5,000 yen to 30,000 yen)

Cousins, etc., relatives other than the above have a price of roughly 5,000 to 30,000 yen .

By age is as follows.

  • 20’s and 30’s: 5,000 to 10,000 yen
  • From ¥ 40s to around ¥ 10,000 to ¥ 30,000

It seems that there is a gap, but the amount of money becomes higher as the relationship is closer, such as playing from a young age.

The average amount of money per region is about 17,000 yen in North Kanto, about 8,000 yen and about 10,000 yen in Kyushu, and it is also characterized by large regional differences.

Incense to others except relatives

Friends and their families (5,000 yen to 10,000 yen)

It depends on friendliness, but for friends and their families, the market price is between 5000 yen and 10,000 yen . If you are acquainted rather than a friend, or unfamiliar with a friend’s family, there are also data from ¥ 3000 for the 20-30s .

The amount of money wrapped in the incense is at most 10,000 yen and there is not much difference according to age. Still, as you get older, the average cost gets higher.

It may be tempting to wrap a lot especially with close friends, but it is likely to be limited to at most 10,000 yen because there are many incense sentences from relatives and it is not a celebration.

If you have friends who plan to attend the funeral together, you may want to talk about how much to wrap.

Workplace relations (business partners and superiors /colleagues /subordinates of the same workplace) (5,000 yen to 10,000 yen)

If you are a business partner, boss, colleague, or subordinate, the price range is ¥ 5,000 to ¥ 10,000. However, there is also data that has been from 3000 yen if the family is not the person or if you are in your twenties.

The largest amount of ¥ 5,000 is wrapped up in workplace relations, but “Family employees with family members” has an average value of approximately 5,000 yen, while “business partner relationships” There is a little gap with about 7,000 yen .

Neighborhood relation (neighbors) (3,000 yen to 10,000 yen)

If your neighbors die, 3,000-10,000 yen is the price, some data from the 30s are from 5,000.
If there is no neighborhood association, it will not be called a funeral, but it will change depending on the degree if there is interaction.

Onshi (teacher) (3,000 yen to 10,000 yen)

If you are indebted as a student or have a close relationship after graduation, the incense is about 3000 yen to about 10,000 yen .
Students often make several thousand yen each and put them together, often wrapped in biographical names, in which case they are mostly 1000 yen to 3000 yen per person .

Incense quote by region

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Hokkaido

Kanto

Kansai

Kyushu

Parents

50,000 yen

100,000 yen

50,000 yen

50,000 yen

Brothers, sisters

30,000 yen

50,000 yen

50,000 yen

30,000 yen

Grandparents

10,000 yen

10,000 yen

10,000 yen

10,000 yen

Uncle

Aunts

10,000 yen

10,000 yen

10,000 yen

10,000 yen

Other relatives

10,000 yen

10,000 yen

10,000 yen

5,000 yen

Friends

The family

5,000 yen

5,000 yen

5,000 yen

5,000 yen

Working relationship

5,000 yen

5,000 yen

5,000 yen

5,000 yen

Neighborhood relationship

3000 yen

5,000 yen

5,000 yen

3000 yen

There is no clear difference as of the age, but the market changes depending on the conditions in the region. Hokkaido and Kyushu have similar results and are cheaper than other regions. The influence of minimum wages and prices can be considered.

Broadly speaking, in East Japan and West Japan, the market price is higher in East Japan. For example, in East Japan, there is a habit called “all night behavior , and meeting guests after all night It is from.

In western Japan, the price is also lower because only close relatives eat after the night.

Courtesy of manners of incense to want to know

Although I have heard it somehow, it is manners that become uneasy or uneasy. Let’s remember this firmly.

Incense Price and Bill

Incense amount (number) is an odd number

  • The number of bills wrapped is 1, 3, 5, an odd number of 10, or 10, etc. . The amount of money such as 5,000 yen, 10,000 yen, 30,000 yen is large, and the thought of China comes from.
  • Avoid 4, which reminds of “death”, and 9 which reminds of even “odd” even with odd numbers.

No new bills will be inserted

The bill has the impression that it was prepared assuming that there is a funeral in advance, and it is not good manners.
However, it is not good for people to receive a bill that is full of wrinkles. Before handing over, let’s review the bill a little.

Inscription on the incense bag: Generally “OK in front of the Holy Spirit”

Strictly speaking, writing is different in denominations, but it is often said that even if you make a mistake, you are not considered to be a manner violation.
In the case of a Buddhist (Buddhist) funeral, it is generally written as “the Holy Spirit”. There are various types (sectarian) in Buddhism, but the following three can be used for all.

  • “Ocense”
  • “Scents”
  • “Blessing Buddha”

Generally I wrote that “the Holy Spirit” can be used, but in fact in Jodo Shinshu, “the Buddha” is correct, not “the Holy Spirit.”
If the funeral is Christian, write “flower charge”.

The name is dim sum

Be sure to write your name on the incense bag. At that time, it is the original manner to write light ink in gray rather than black.


In anticipation of the deceased, it appears that the ink has become thin with tears. There is also a thin ink pen, so let’s use it in case of emergency.

How to write an incense in the case of passing names by name

It’s important to clearly identify each person’s name, even when meeting and collaborating with several people. By doing so, it is possible to save the burden of finding out who the deceased family is getting the gift from, and also reducing the burden when returning the gift.

We will try to write the name on the envelope for up to 3 people, but for 4 people we will write the name of the representative or department on the chart of the gift bag.

  1. ’00 Co., Ltd. Division 1 group ‘
  2. ’00 Co., Ltd. Division 0 Suzuki Taro outer party ‘

The name and address of the representative will be written on the back of the inner bag, and the name and address will be written in the order of the person with the highest position from the right, on a one-stroke note put in the inner bag. If there are too many people to write, just your name may be fine.

Timing to pass the incense book

Kongen will pass by funerals and funerals throughout the night. If you attend both the tonight and the funeral or the farewell ceremony, give it by one or the other. According to the data of the All Japan Ceremonial Funeral Association, it seems that “Waiting” and “Delivery ceremony” have a large number of people passing around at about 7: 3 .

30% of the bereaved decline the incense book

I wrote about incense sentences, but as the form of funerals is diversifying, there are more and more bereaved families who decline the incense because of various reasons. Please refrain from passing if you decline the gift.

According to 2014 data from

Ending Databank , It was found that about 30% of the whole people had declined their offerings.

It may not be a rare story anymore.
There are three main reasons for being in decline.

  • To reduce the financial burden on the funeral attendants
  • If you are not deeply involved with the deceased, you will be resisting to receive the incense scripture
  • It is necessary to return the rituals and want to avoid the burden (time and effort)

Procedure to decline the delicacy debit to smart

There is a custom of “half return” in which about half of the incense of the incense is returned. It is possible to decline the critique return to reduce the burden on the bereaved.

It is a good idea to put a note on your confederate bag (an unfortunate bag) that you wrote down. It is common to write on a vertical writing paper called a one-stroke writing paper.

  • Example of filling in a letter

“(Mourner)

I sincerely regret it. Although I am selfish, I will decline the incense refusal. “

※ mourner (Mosh) … about the organizer of the funeral.

For example, in the following cases, there are many people who decline to return the cricket.

  • If you give a small sum (for example, 2000 yen each) in a couple’s name, if the mourner’s share is lost if you receive a reward one by one
  • If you know that your family’s economic situation may be aggravated if you are working as a mainstay of your family and you die

In the case of ‘Same-day return’, where a casket return is passed on the day

  • Inform the receptionist that you don’t need to send back the scent
  • Writing that you decline the return of the delicacy on the back of the bag or in the stationery: Make it clear to the bereaved
  • The funeral goods are separate from the custody return, and will be received even if you decline the custody return.
The difference between return on the day and the funeral thank-you goods

The return on the day is about 3000 yen, whereas the funeral for the funeral is a compact thing of about 1000 yen or less distributed to all the attendees. For example, convenience stores, handkerchiefs, ballpoint pens, tea, etc. are often selected as funeral gifts.

Frequently Asked Questions on Incense

Q1. Should I bring a relative’s funeral, an incense that is said to be unnecessary?

A. Not required

If you say you don’t need it, you don’t have to bring it with you. Especially in the case of close relatives, there are many patterns that are said to be unnecessary.
Since you are seen as a bereaved rather than a participant, let’s not forget that a relative who has been deceased will greet those who have been indebted for a lifetime or to attend.

Q2. If you said that my grandmother’s funeral and incense would be fine for 10,000 yen?

A. Incense is 10,000 yen and may send flowers with grandchildren

It is said that it is fine for 10,000 yen, so there is no need to wrap more than that.
It is often said that you don’t need the incense or do it for a small amount because you don’t want to burden the children and grandchildren.

Especially if the relationship is close, you may want to wrap up 30,000 yen because there is not enough at 10,000 yen. If there are other grandchildren attending the funeral, it is common to do the following:

  • Consult to pay 10,000 yen uniformly
  • We give plus and flower (gift offering) with grandchild together

Whether you wrap a rose or give a flower, it would be better to talk to your relatives and decide between your grandchildren.

Supplied Flower Quotes: Does it vary by religion? Types of flowers and correct ways to give gifts

Q3. Economically tough, but should you wrap the code?

A. Wrap feelings (3000 yen) if possible

Especially when you are financially difficult, you do not have to cover money.

In fact, it is after the war that the wrapping of money as an incense as it is now spread at funerals. Kongen was originally created for mutual aid.

Since the mourner was burdened with a large burden by feeding food to many people, it is said that the beginning was that more people, such as relatives and neighbors, brought in more food and helped each other. You

Currently, incense is rooted as money, and if you are a close friend, you may think that you do not want to have a narrow shoulder to the participants. It is up to the individual to judge, but it is safe to wrap it as much as 3000 yen if possible.

Now the incense is inseparable from the funeral as a money, but it has recently become money.
The funeral is a ceremony to thank the deceased and to send out pleasantly. It would be good if you could protect the bereaved manners of the family so that the bereaved family would not be rude, and you could help as much as possible.

Q4. How much should you wrap the funerals and relatives of your relatives?

A. The same amount of incense as received, or 3000 yen to 5000 yen is safe

If you’ve ever received an incense in your relative’s funeral, it’s manners to wrap the same amount. If you have never received it, there is no doubt that if you look at the market, wrap around 3,000 yen to 5,000 yen.
If the relationship is further apart from you, such as your grandparents rather than your colleague’s parents, you may not be particularly good at cooking.

Q5.

A. Most likely not to change

For example The amount of money wrapped in incense is 30,000 yen and 3,000 yen, but the contents of the incense return may change, but the items in 5000 and 3,000 yen are almost the same is.

Kyokei is supposed to give a return of about half of the amount wrapped in the sake, and there is also the word “half return”, but even if you wrap a couple hundred thousand yen of sake, you get 2 It will be about 10,000 yen to 30,000 yen.

But in the first place, Komonori is a funeral ceremony where all the great mourners are sought after. Incense scriptures may be wrapped at the time of the funeral of the person by the amount of money wrapped up in the person, and the scroll return itself may not have been adopted in the first place.

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Q6. Is it rude to wrap a large amount of incense in addition to relatives?

A. Even if it is not rude, it is recommended to wrap around the market price.

The important thing is not to let the bereaved care is.

There are two main reasons why it is not good to have more incense than the market price.

1. There is a custom to wrap the amount of money you have received before.

There is a lot of people who feel pressure because there is a custom to return the same amount of incense in funerals such as their own family and relatives. The more you wrap up, the more you care about the bereaved.

2. Expressing a feeling of “sadness is a pity”

The small amount of money includes the nuance that “I was shocked that I was rushing to wrap up the money I had for the time being,” as it was because I did not prepare a new bill.

Exception

  • When the family’s main pillar disappears
  • If you left a young child and died

In these cases, there is also a way of refusing the custody debating, by wrapping more incense in the sense of aid. In such a case, you will be gratefully received.

Learn more >> How to decline a Smart Reciprocate

※ Reference: All Japanese marriages Funeral Mutual Association

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